Game of Thrones Taught Me I’m Still Learning to be a Better Ally to Women

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Season 8, episode 5 of Game of Thrones was a total cluster #$%& of bad writing. The showrunners’ full-sail assassination of all character development and character arcs we’ve invested in these past 10 years was beyond disappointing. I really, really couldn’t care less how it ends now.

But, that’s not why I’m writing. There are a plethora of articles and videos online outlining all the issues with it (and the memes! Ahhh. Those hilarious memes).

I’m writing because I wanted to be vulnerable and share a valuable lesson I learned: that as much as I think I’m an ally to women, I STILL HAVE A LOT TO LEARN. I still harbor thoughts and feelings which are patriarchal, and dare I say, gulp, sexist.

Case in point.

At the company I work for, we have a #gameofthronesspoilers Slack channel (I have no doubt we’re not the only ones. 😊) After last Sunday’s episode, “The Bells,” one of the women engineers at the company wrote in the channel:

TBH, my first reaction to her comment was “I think she’s being a little sensitive. It’s bad writing for sure, but sexist? I don’t know about all that.”

Then I read this great article on Romper:

Game of Thrones Failed Women Yet Again When Daenerys Burned King’s Landing

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These two quotes from the article really say it all:

In response to the comment made by the showrunners in the “Inside the Episode” segment afterward, that Dany in a split second decided to make it personal, the writer of the Romper article responds:

I was not at all clued into this thought. I was not even aware that the show lacked any women in the writing or directing for the past three seasons. I was not empathetic to the comment made by my coworker. In a way, I did to her what the showrunners did to Dany—reduced her response to the show as “emotion,” as opposed to a reasoned reaction to how the show runners treated a character who, up ’til now, had been portrayed as someone who, despite her emotions, made sound, and even just decisions.

As much as I clamor on about the need for those who aren’t a person of color to understand issues that we face, I appreciate the fact that as a man, I still have a lot to learn about issues women face.

But, as I am often fond of quoting: “I’m tryin’ Ringo. I’m tryin’ real hard.”

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